Dear Aimee Jones,
I’m a guy and I don’t get Valentine’s Day. Why is that day so important? It’s too much pressure. Wouldn’t it mean more to get flowers and chocolate out of the blue rather than because the calendar says it’s time?
Not Feeling the Love – Elk City, Oklahoma
Many women in my readership are looking at their husbands right now and accusing them of submitting this question. Thankfully for you, the anonymity I provide to my sources just might save your relationship. Most women do hold a special place in their hearts for Valentine’s Day. I agree with your statement about getting things out of the blue, but I don’t think that ever should take the place of a special V-day surprise. Men love to tease about how Valentine’s Day was invented by the greeting card companies to boost their sales. The true history behind the day is a murky one, although it most definitely predates Hallmark. One legend is that Valentine was a priest during the third century in Rome at a time when men were forbidden to marry and ordered to serve as soldiers instead. Valentine disagreed with the mandate and continued to perform marriages in secret, eventually being put to death for his fight to preserve love. Another legend is that Valentine helped Christian prisoners escape, but was eventually caught and sentenced to death. During his imprisonment, he fell in love with the jailor’s daughter. The night before his sentence was carried out; he managed to send her one last letter declaring his undying affection. It was signed “From your Valentine.” Did you hear that? The collective sigh as women across western Oklahoma read the accounts of the legendary romantic hero? The question isn’t whether or not you believe in Valentine’s Day. The question is does your significant other value a box of chocolates and a handmade heart-shaped doily card on the 14th of February? Here’s a little tip that will take your relationship far in this life. If it’s important to her, make it important to you. I will conclude with the thought-provoking words of a true pillar of wisdom, Joe Giudice from Real Housewives of New Jersey, “Happy wife, happy life.” Now go get out the construction paper, scissors, and a thesaurus and make your special lady smile this St. Valentine’s Day!
“Real Housewife of Western Oklahoma”
_The Daily Elk Citian_09 February 2012
_The Cordell Beacon_